Hey,If the name looks unfamiliar, we chatted in Player last Friday night.
Anyway I thought I would drop you a quick email and say hey. How's
your week been? Look forward to the weekend?Speak soon
Adrian
Hi Adrian,It was really nice to meet you the other night, however I am married and have two children. I am sorry if you feel that I led you on but I do have a friendly nature!
DH
Um ...thanksfor that. You are right, I was confusing friendliness, my fault entirely for being misled. If by friendly you mean flirting and if by my fault I mean yours.
If As I recall you started talking to me, and by talking I mean flirting. You gave me your email address and phone number. You told me to call you. In fairness you did say, that being a fashion buyer you would tell me what the summers fashions would be, but one could easily mistake that for giving me an excuse to call. It's the kind of thing I would say when flirting. Andhavedone. Especially one done at the same time as being tactile and leavingahand trailing on my arm. You're quitegoodat 'chatting'.
I am sorry to have wasted your time chatting. It had been a longweekand I should have been chatting to the nice single girls at the party. Instead I though you were interested. In me. You know with the whole you approaching me thing. You know, in a bar on a Friday night, where people go to meet people. Of course in telling me a lot about yourself you did fail to mention "my husband" or "my kids" at all. Must have been forgotten in all that "friendly nature" stuff.
Best, rejection ever, because I've never got quite a cold hard flat shot down all engines blazing rejection before.
Worst, because she totally led me on and this 'friendly nature' line was bullshit, and really I'm tired of all this, and there were other girls at the party I would have talked to. I'm a little grrrrr that the email looks like it's my fault for being led on, when it totally was not. I'm not an idiot.
Note, I never actually sent the final mail, I deleted her mail. It's more of a internal monologue
1. cian
dude - on facebook the formatting of the strikeout doesn’t appear. Therefore it looks like you sent that email and your next twitter statuses will be
sevitz has now got a 20m restraining order sevitz doesn’t know what to do with the body sevitz has to get rid of 2 empty bags of lime and return the chainsaw to B&Q
2. Jack
I recommend the following:
1) Taking it all less seriously, and 2) Not thinking about all the missed opportunities for chatting up girls like some kind of desperate networking event for the job of your dreams
3. Adrian
1) I’m not taking it as seriously as you think 2) I don’t.
Her mail attempted to make me feel that this my fault for misinterpreting. I didn’t. Rejection never feels nice, even if you dismiss it or don’t care too much.
Which I have.
4. Jack
Heavens, I can’t imagine the unsent emails you’d be composing if you did care then.
5. annie
ha! clever edited email.
I understand, & would be totally irritated too. She was being disingenuous, (I usually get ‘my flatmate’ when they actually mean ‘my girlfriend’ - very sly.) It sounds like she was wanting an ego-boost.
When you’ve been single for a good while time-wasters do make you impatient…
6. The B
You could have got led on a lot worse, believe me. I am still waiting to hear what HIS excuse will be.
The thing that I think looks a little cheeky is that she immediately jumps to the assumption that you’re chatting her up. Yes, fair enough, you are, but if she was THAT friendly when you met face to face couldn’t you have emailed back saying “Oh! Sorry DH, it was really nice to meet you too but goodness I’ve got three wives and ten children, and you gave me your email address, you seemed just a little desperate so I though I’d make your week by emailing you, but didn’t mean to give you the wrong impression I don’t have room in my mansion for a FOURTH wife, I’ve just got a friendly nature.” Or you know, something similar.
7. TSP
You were at the Player on Friday night ? Damn, I must have completely missed you.
Oh yeah, and never underestimate the power of the Player’s cocktails. Or alcohol in general. Or women.
8. Coop
Assuming that DH is a woman, then fuck her like. Your initial email has no sign of a come on at all, i.e. it has no “what you doing on x weekend” or “fancy drinks at x place”. You’ve just asked how her week’s been - which is just the electronic equivalent of the “how’s it going like?” passing phrase in my welsh books….
Maybe it’s just me being pissed though…. Will ping you on Face book tomorrow…
9. Adrian
Jack , when I do care I get upset and depressed and my friends have to take me for drinks. I compose letters to South West Trains all the time, doesn’t mean I actually have a crap day every time my train is late. Which is every day.
Annie , exactly. I’ve got better things to do than talk to disingenuous time wasters.
The B , tempting but I’m just deleting the email. I’m not allowing her to allow me to look like a dick. But you’re right, the fact she assumes I was chatting her up does led me to think she realises Friday night was less than innocent.
TSP , I never underestimate the Power of Women,
Coop , you’re right, I did lead with a nice friendly email. Perhaps she shouldn’t give out her email address so freely then. And yes she is a women.